Ways To Stop Quarrels In A Relationship.

There are a lot of ways to stop fighting in a relationship, but do
you always want to follow them? Constant fighting in a
relationship isn't healthy, but sometimes it happens. If you're
finding yourself constantly fighting with your boyfriend or
girlfriend, you've got to take a look at my ways to stop fighting
in a relationship so you can really get back to enjoying each
other! Remember, fights are typically caused by
misunderstandings and underlying issues!
1. Don't Bring up The past:This is a huge step that I need to
learn. I would say, one of the key ways to stop fighting in a
relationship is to stop bringing up the past. The past is the past
and the more that you bring it up, the worse the fight can
actually be. Bringing up the past can also bring up a lot of old
emotions, which is never good.
2. Don't Leave Things Unresolved:I know it's hard and you've
probably heard it before, but going to bed angry is not going
to solve anything. This can leave you both feeling extremely
resentful and actually can make the fight last a lot longer. Why
not resolve the fight before bed or at least talk it all out, so
that you both can feel better?
3. Learn to Accept Each Other:Everyone in the world has flaws,
some of the flaws are things that you've got to deal with, some
of the flaws are things that you need to accept. This is where
accepting each other for who you are comes in handy. Your
boyfriend might never be the guy that brings home flowers and
your girlfriend may never be the girl that can't stop nagging,
but these are things that you need to learn to accept.
4. Figure Out The Root of The Problem:Every fight in the world
has a root at the end of it. Once you figure out exactly what the
root of the problem is, you'll be able to solve the problem and
also solve the fight. It's not going to be easy, but it is going to
be worth it.
5. Own up to Your Part of The Fight:One of the biggest
problems that I have when I'm in a fight is that I get into my
own head space – and I don't necessarily own up to my own
part of the fight. It's hard to admit that you are wrong and to
take the blame. Do it though. It's healthy and it'll make your
partner appreciate you!
6. Ban The 'but':'But if you did this,' 'but if you did that,'
eliminate the 'but' from your vocab when you are in a fight and
you'll be way better off! I use the 'but' all of the time and
truthfully, when I cut it out, the fight doesn't last nearly as
long. Just curb your tongue a little!
7. Is This a Repeat Performance?I know that issues come up,
but do you constantly have the same fight? Over and over
again? Do you think that could be a sign? If you are constantly
having a fight that revolves around a certain thing that your
spouse does, why not bring it up to them calmly to stop the
fight?
8. Remember What's Important:Finally, you always want to keep
in mind that your relationship is very important and that you
two are together for a reason. It's hard to keep that in mind
when you are fighting, but it's so important.
While you might not feel like your relationship is amazing
because of the constant fighting, there are tons of ways to stop
fighting in your relationship, you just have to work at it. So, are
you constantly fighting in your relationship?